Saturday, December 7, 2013

Friend..Are you there?

Other than death (a little dramatic), what would cause a friend to stop returning your phone calls, emails, text messages? This topic came about when my brother expressed concern that a friend of his had stopped communicating with him. Now my brother expressed his slight disappointment for about 2 minutes and then he was done with it. Of course, as Big Sister, I offered my advice. I told my brother to not take it personally and some people you have to just let them be. I started thinking about the times in my life when several people that I labeled as friends didn’t reciprocate my communication efforts. This is what I believe: Friendship=Communication. Friends are blessings. Friends are people that you share your heartaches and triumphs with. If you are feeling like you’re pushing a friendship/communication on someone, then I’m pretty sure he/she is.not.a.friend. People DO change and get different over time for whatever reason. Even if you said something or did something offensive to those individuals, if they couldn’t be mature enough to express that to you, that’s too bad. Sometimes life gets in the way. I get that and yet I still don’t believe in constantly trying to contact someone who chooses to not respond. To wonder “What happened?” or “Did I say something wrong?” is wasted mental energy. You wish that person the best and move on.  


  1. It seems like there is always so much going on these days. Hopefully that friend is ok, because it seems odd (other than death) for a friend to STOP all communication. And it is downright rude NOT to reciprocate if your FRIEND reaches out to you. I agree with you that "friends are blessings" even if that friend is just now figuring out how to do this blogging thing! :-)
    You are a good big sister and a good friend.

  2. I think I can guess who this is.....Yes you are so right, friends are blessings. I'll excuse least you figured it out one year and a half later.