Monday, May 1, 2017

No Chocolate and Cherries On Top!



I believe in positive thinking, speaking, and work…the 3 complement each other.  Before you know it, the you’re moving into the direction of how you think and speak.  Yet again, before you know it, things begin to fall in place. Yet again, before you know it, your life starts to look like your vision board.  Some things begin to fall into place a little sooner than you expected and that’s when you say to yourself, “I’m really doing this. This is really happening.” There’s more work to be done, but the gratification becomes your ammunition. So, when you’re moving into the next phase of your vision, why the slight irritation? Where is the next phase coupled with chocolate and cherries on top? The next phase is exciting, but the next phase also means omission and more responsibility. Omission of what you ask? Omission of anything or anyone (ouch!) that will take up space for your next phase.  The omission is needed to make room for advancement. Whatever you’ve had to sacrifice was needed to get you to the next phase, but it’s not needed anymore. Your advancement comes with added responsibility; more decisions to be made, more plans to refine, more patience to muster up when tasks don’t get done within your time frame! I think we make ourselves believe that we cannot and should not take the next step because the progress isn’t smooth or there are too many kinks to iron out, or the omissions and sacrifices are uncomfortable to make.  This does not mean you cannot make your next move. It just means you are looking in the wrong place for the chocolate and cherries (try your local supermarket).
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Thursday, April 27, 2017

Things I Would Tell My Younger Self



I am excited about what has transpired in my life within the last few weeks. But wait…I had to adjust my thinking and my view to get to the “excited” phase. A few transitions have occurred; both sudden and prepared; both stress-free and not really my first choice. I knew in my business, it was time for me to make changes in order to grow; one in particular change meant investing in an office space for production and showroom purposes. So, I did! This new investment meant lowering my living expenses significantly! So significantly, I was starting to feel like I was taking 10 steps backward until I was reminded of my own tweet: No Great Achievements without Great Sacrifices!  
If you would have told me I would be “here” two years ago, I would have smiled and frowned at you within a space of 5 seconds. I started to wonder how I would’ve handled this transition if I was 15 years or even 20 years younger. I know that I certainly would not have viewed things in a positive way. I certainly would not have viewed my transitions as stepping stones into another stage. It makes me laugh at how one of the sacrifices I’m making right now is actually something I was afraid I would have to do years ago; Which is why I didn’t pursue all the things I wanted to do when I was younger! Funny how life works. These last few weeks have prompted this list of what I would tell my younger self:
Relax; Calm TF down
Stop being hard on yourself; growth occurs every day of life
Be yourself; and strive every day to be more of your self
Have a big plan, with flexibility and then plan Bigger
Understand transition does not mean starting over; transition is moving from one stage to the next
Be care-free from people’s opinions of you; this will allow you to make the necessary sacrifices to make those visions realities
Your vision and how you view things affects your words, your actions, your life
You will be Fine and Fabulous

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Friday, March 31, 2017

Nerve Wrecking!!



      I have some nerve-wrecking and exciting news to share with you. I just released my new e-book on Amazon, My Iconic Mess & The Empire on the Other Side.
    I started working on this project in October 2015 (Yes, 2015!) and it is finally complete. Writing books has always been on my vision board, but I did not expect to write my first one this soon. As many of you know, I have a clothing line that I have been working diligently on. The process has been rewarding and tough. Since starting the business, I've had conversations with people that have ventures and experiences they would like to pursue, but for many reasons, they do not; leaving them unfulfilled. I’ve also had conversations with people that are pursuing what’s on their vision boards, but the tough moments seem to be bigger than their end goals. I wrote this first book to tell both of those groups of people, “Hey, I’m there with you. I’m in it with you. I understand the preservations, the fears. I understand the long moments of wanting to throw the vision board out of the window.”
   Although it is a short read, this book outlines my process in real time, with a back story. Some of it may put a smile on your face. Some of it may have you shaking your head. I do not classify this work to be a self-help book. I did not write it to tell people what to do with their lives or to follow a “5-step program for success.” Everyone’s life is different. My hope is for someone to just simply say, after reading this book, “If she can do it, start it, pursue it, then so can I.” 
  To take a look inside my book, click on the link below. Then share it with your family, your 
friends, friends of friends, your cousin’s friends, your hairstylist’s friends, the bartender’s friends..you get the idea! Happy reading!

https://www.amazon.com/Iconic-Mess-Empire-Other-Side-ebook/dp/B06XSBWJPC/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1490968125&sr=1-1&keywords=my+iconic+mess