Wednesday, January 17, 2018

Remember The Plums!

Ok Ladies, We know every day we may not feel like putting on makeup but we want to put on makeup we just want something on our face. We want to do something, but new and real quick, effortless, always remember purple eyes, red is what I mean. These colors will give you a quick easy look to go from day to evening..during the day, do your eyeliner, mascara and slight red on the lips w/ a little gloss, then to evening, add purple to the crease of the eyelid, remove the gloss and go bold and matte with your red lip color you already have. I promise this a quick 5 minute easy make up look…the pictures are below along with the products I used for my look. 

Smoldering Plum for blush, Jammin' in eye shadow duo, and Lip color is Matte Crimson. All products are by Clinique.

Tuesday, November 28, 2017

40.. No Kids? No Husband? Oh NO!

Let’s talk about it. I was trying my best not to post about it, but I keep getting hit with the topic. How can I be 40, child-less and husband-less?! When I tell people my age, they are surprised to learn of my no kid/no husband status. Here are some of the reactions I get: “Wait, so you’ve never been married?” “You do have kids though, right?” “How old are you again?” “Did you just not want kids/husband?”  “Oh, you just haven’t met the right guy yet.” I also get “You’re just too independent.” “I get it. You’re married to your career.” “It must be nice to have extra time to yourself.” “Dating has to be difficult; ya’ know..trying to find the right guy.” “Wow!” (concerned looks go here).

For a long time, I was taught that I should want kids and marriage, but “be married first because that’s the right thing to do!” Those messages came from family and other people around me. When I started to develop my own view of how I wanted my life to look, not how I was told it should look, I realized something. Having kids and being married did not fit. I used to think that something was wrong with me for not wanting “kids who are such a blessing” and for not wanting to be married so I could “build a life with someone else”.  I tried to force myself to be comfortable with that image. For fear of being viewed as selfish or plain nuts, it took time for me to be assertive about how I wanted my life to look. It took time for me to not feel shame for being clear about what I wanted to include and not include in my life.  

I can’t speak for every single, child-less woman who is of the same age, but these women may appreciate the following ground rules:
    Don’t assume we have extra time to spare because we’re single with no kids. If you see extra time laying around anywhere, could you please pass some on to me?!
      Don’t assume that we don’t want nor are we not in a committed relationship. 
    Don’t say to us, “You’re married to your career” because that sounds dumb. We don’t need for you to create another reason or soften our reasons for not wanting to be married.
    Don’t tell us we are too independent. As if a woman married with children is somehow not independent..?
      Don’t scrunch up your face and show concern for the choices we have made for our lives. Don’t be so shocked. We’re happy.

I can feel a part two coming on. In the meantime, I’d love to read what you think. Please comment below!