Tuesday, November 14, 2017

Pardon Me While I Break




This year has taught me how important it is to declutter mentally.  We work, work, and work some more, and then repeat, without scheduling and taking mental breaks.  Mental breaks are needed to make sure we are still owning our lives, situations, goals instead of our lives, situations, and goals owning us.  We need mental breaks to be sure that we are still doing what we are doing for OUR right reasons.  Notice I said, “OUR right reasons”: not the reasons that other people think we should have, but for the reasons that will allow us to be as fulfilled as we can possibly be.  Mental breaks will “un-cloud” us.  We need mental breaks to be sure that we are keeping the right people around us.  Mental breaks will show us who we need to love from a distance.  Mental breaks will open us up to new opportunities and higher levels of creativity.  Mental breaks are our chance to THINK; think about our next big move, to think about what opportunities we can create.  Most of all, mental breaks are free. Take One! 


Wednesday, November 8, 2017

Shenanigans, Shit, & Frustrations! Oh My!

Another year almost under our stilettos, over our shoulders, or however you’d like to say that! When the last days of the year approach, I always imagine myself sitting back in a chair with my feet up, with a nice glass of something, wiping my brow, and saying “Maaannn! What a year!” I know I’m not by myself! I had to adjust my blogging schedule from every 3 weeks to just one a month!  
2017 has brought some interesting...ok..frustrating situations. Frustration can turn into daggers of negativity that can make everything seem heavy. I started asking myself, “Why did I even start this?” Why can’t shit just go smoothly?” “Maybe my timing is just off” “If it’s this hard, should I really be doing this?” I didn’t even realize I was entertaining those thoughts. That frustration was starting to put a damper on my spirit, my creativity, my vision. I had to take a step back, look at those questions not to entertain them, but to put them in a chokehold. Now doing that didn’t change the fact that the shenanigans were still present, but it became clear the shenanigans were lessons: business and life lessons. Not only were they lessons, but I had to remind myself that just because the road is difficult, doesn’t mean the road shouldn’t be traveled.  
Recently I listened to someone convince themselves that the difficulty they were experiencing, to fulfill something they wanted, was a sign they should not be doing it. Listen. I was in no condition to give a speech at that time! But today I can say that some of us have given up on great things because we convinced ourselves that difficulty is a sign of what must not be. “Oh well, I guess if it’s this hard, it must not be right” or “I guess it’s not meant to be.”  Tamu is in the right condition to tell you it MUST be done. Recognize the lesson in the difficulty. Difficulty means YES. So, the next time you ask yourself, “Should I really be pursuing this?” Answer with YES.YES.YES!

Sunday, September 24, 2017

Shenanigans, Shit, & Frustrations! Oh My!



Another month already under our stilettos, over our shoulders, or however you’d like to say that! When that 10th month approaches, I can imagine myself sitting back in a chair with my feet up, with a nice glass of something, wiping my brow, and saying “Maaannn! What a year!” I know I’m not by myself! I had to adjust my blogging schedule from every 3 weeks to just one a month!  Thankfully to you lovely and faithful readers, there’s some anticipation for Tamu Talks blog posts. So, to know that, frustration set in because consistency is the main thing for business and life!  
Speaking of frustration, 2017 has brought me some interesting situations. Frustration can turn into daggers of negativity that can make everything seem heavy. I started asking myself, “Why did I even start this?” Why can’t shit just go smoothly?” “Maybe my timing is just off” “If it’s this hard, should I really be doing this?” I didn’t even realize I was entertaining those thoughts. That frustration was starting to put a damper on my spirit, my creativity, my vision. I had to take a step back, look at those questions not to entertain them, but to put them in a chokehold. Now doing that didn’t change the fact that the shenanigans were still present, but it became clear the shenanigans were lessons: business and life lessons. Not only were they lessons, but I had to remind myself that just because the road is difficult, doesn’t mean the road shouldn’t be traveled.  
Recently I listened to someone convince themselves that the difficulty they were experiencing, to fulfill something they wanted, was a sign they should not be doing it. Listen. I was in no condition to give a speech at that time! But today I can say that some of us have given up on great things because we convinced ourselves that difficulty is a sign of what must not be. “Oh well, I guess if it’s this hard, it must not be right” or “I guess it’s not meant to be.”  Tamu is in the right condition to tell you it MUST be done. Recognize the lesson in the difficulty. Difficulty means YES. So, the next time you ask yourself, “Should I really be pursuing this?” Answer with YES.YES.YES!