Pardon Me While I Break

This year has taught me how important it is to declutter mentally.  We work, work, and work some more, and then repeat, without scheduling and taking mental breaks.  Mental breaks are needed to make sure we are still owning our lives, situations, goals instead of our lives, situations, and goals owning us.  We need mental breaks to be sure that we are still doing what we are doing for OUR right reasons.  Notice I said, “OUR right reasons”: not the reasons that other people think we should have, but for the reasons that will allow us to be as fulfilled as we can possibly be.  Mental breaks will “un-cloud” us.  We need mental breaks to be sure that we are keeping the right people around us.  Mental breaks will show us who we need to love from a distance.  Mental breaks will open us up to new opportunities and higher levels of creativity.  Mental breaks are our chance to THINK; think about our next big move, to think about what opportunities we can create.  Most of all, mental breaks are free. Take One! 

Shenanigans, Shit, & Frustrations! Oh My!

Another year almost under our stilettos, over our shoulders, or however you’d like to say that! When the last days of the year approach, I always imagine myself sitting back in a chair with my feet up, with a nice glass of something, wiping my brow, and saying “Maaannn! What a year!” I know I’m not by myself! I had to adjust my blogging schedule from every 3 weeks to just one a month!  

2017 has brought some interesting...ok..frustrating situations. Frustration can turn into daggers of negativity that can make everything seem heavy. I started asking myself, “Why did I even start this?” Why can’t shit just go smoothly?” “Maybe my timing is just off” “If it’s this hard, should I really be doing this?” I didn’t even realize I was entertaining those thoughts. That frustration was starting to put a damper on my spirit, my creativity, my vision. I had to take a step back, look at those questions not to entertain them, but to put them in a chokehold. Now doing that didn’t change the fact that the shenanigans were still present, but it became clear the shenanigans were lessons: business and life lessons. Not only were they lessons, but I had to remind myself that just because the road is difficult, doesn’t mean the road shouldn’t be traveled.  

Recently I listened to someone convince themselves that the difficulty they were experiencing, to fulfill something they wanted, was a sign they should not be doing it. Listen. I was in no condition to give a speech at that time! But today I can say that some of us have given up on great things because we convinced ourselves that difficulty is a sign of what must not be. “Oh well, I guess if it’s this hard, it must not be right” or “I guess it’s not meant to be.”  Tamu is in the right condition to tell you it MUST be done. Recognize the lesson in the difficulty. Difficulty means YES. So, the next time you ask yourself, “Should I really be pursuing this?” Answer with YES.YES.YES!

Shenanigans, Shit, & Frustrations! Oh My!

Another month already under our stilettos, over our shoulders, or however you’d like to say that! When that 10th month approaches, I can imagine myself sitting back in a chair with my feet up, with a nice glass of something, wiping my brow, and saying “Maaannn! What a year!” I know I’m not by myself! I had to adjust my blogging schedule from every 3 weeks to just one a month!  Thankfully to you lovely and faithful readers, there’s some anticipation for Tamu Talks blog posts. So, to know that, frustration set in because consistency is the main thing for business and life!  

Speaking of frustration, 2017 has brought me some interesting situations. Frustration can turn into daggers of negativity that can make everything seem heavy. I started asking myself, “Why did I even start this?” Why can’t shit just go smoothly?” “Maybe my timing is just off” “If it’s this hard, should I really be doing this?” I didn’t even realize I was entertaining those thoughts. That frustration was starting to put a damper on my spirit, my creativity, my vision. I had to take a step back, look at those questions not to entertain them, but to put them in a chokehold. Now doing that didn’t change the fact that the shenanigans were still present, but it became clear the shenanigans were lessons: business and life lessons. Not only were they lessons, but I had to remind myself that just because the road is difficult, doesn’t mean the road shouldn’t be traveled.  

Recently I listened to someone convince themselves that the difficulty they were experiencing, to fulfill something they wanted, was a sign they should not be doing it. Listen. I was in no condition to give a speech at that time! But today I can say that some of us have given up on great things because we convinced ourselves that difficulty is a sign of what must not be. “Oh well, I guess if it’s this hard, it must not be right” or “I guess it’s not meant to be.”  Tamu is in the right condition to tell you it MUST be done. Recognize the lesson in the difficulty. Difficulty means YES. So, the next time you ask yourself, “Should I really be pursuing this?” Answer with YES.YES.YES!

She's Booked!

Active, fully scheduled, booked lives call for a fast and simple makeup application, right? Right! Especially if you’ve only slept for 5 hours or if you are sitting in an airport waiting on an early morning flight, wondering why you booked an early assed flight to begin with?! Here’s an easy 5-minute look: Start with an eye shadow stick-no blending necessary. The one I use is the massive midnight chubby stick by Clinique. I chose to cover my eye lid, but you can take the application easy and use the stick as eye liner that will create a thick line for top lash line. For the cheeks, go with an actual bronzer or a gold cheek color.  My go to is Makeup Forever’s gold dual cheek and eye color. If you go with a dark color like I did, keep the lips subtle with a nude gloss: I used bamboo pink long wear lipstick by Clinique.

 Side note: Yes, it’s still Summer and I’m showing you a dark eye color. Don’t get caught up in the “Summer colors versus Winter vs Spring colors”! Keep it simple…color is color is color! Wear all of them all year! Another side note: Wear all the colors that match your skin tone, okay?! A look like this is easy to make packing, for a busy day or vacation, easier. A makeup look like this can take you from day into evening. So, instead of packing every lipstick, eyeshadow, and blush we have, we can narrow our makeup bag to a “few” items. I know your schedule is crowded, but your makeup bag doesn’t have to be!

Do you want to pack a makeup bag that looks like this...

Or....this?